Attitude. The wrong one, that is...
A good attitude create open space: space that enables you or an other to express your or his experience.
“Presence” is the most intangible element of this good attitude but can be explained as the combination of a few elements. I base these elements on the work the A.H. Almaas has called “The Diamond Approach”. This is a method of self-inquiry and growth in which someone evaluates his experience in a certain situation – thoughts, feelings, behaviour, and reactions – and subsequently uses a method of asking the right questions to go deeper into those. This process leads to personal development. Important elements of this attitude are the following:
1. Openness – being open and sensitive to change, to new things, to the truth that shows itself in the process of working with yourself and others.
2. Observation – the direct and unprejudiced observation of your own experience and the experience of the other in a certain situation.
3. Intelligence – sharpness and mindfulness for what is expressed, paired with an analytical ability to distil the essence from this.
4. Concentration – aiming oneself at the observation of everything and the experience thereof without letting oneself be distracted by irrelevant things.
5. Interest – departing from a point of not-knowing, therefore being unprejudiced, to find the truth about his experience.
6. Love for the Truth – a state of wondering where a certain state or emotion comes from without necessarily wanting to go to a solution. The Truth is in this case the reality of the moment, that what really happened, without being veiled by layers of beliefs, fears, blockades of emotions, etc.
The shortest way to being present is just being there, being yourself, just experiencing what is at this very moment.
(This is an excerpt from an article I wrote which you can find here).